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Since pop culture seems to generate page views, I’m going to make a reference to a graphic novel that is almost 30 years old, but don’t worry because it has a film adaptation from only six years ago. I am nothing if not topical and relevant here at Blog for Chumps. I refer of course to Watchmen. If you haven’t read/watched it in the time that it has been around, then I sincerely doubt you care that I’m about to spoil it for you.

Anyway, the premise is that humanity is about to kill itself. It’s set during the Cold War era, and it is assumed that America and Russia are going to nuke the shit out of one another. This story is actually super philosophical in its telling, and each character represents a different outlook on human nature. However, the unifying principle is that mankind is a savage beast, and the characters can only act with that principle to guide them. The Comedian embraces the savagery, and revels in the chaos and violence that naturally occurs in society. Rorschach uses the savagery against itself, hoping to use fire to quell the flames. Ozymandias realizes that nothing can actually stop the barbarity of humanity, and so he devises a plot to use it to secure peace: he utilizes the Us vs. Them conflict mentality and creates an outside hostile force (how he personifies that force depends on your medium) that unites humanity against it. Hilariously, the character representing God is only ever a puppet of the government or the ego-maniacal power monger.

Must we accept this basic premise, though? Are we naught but savages? There is a theory that says that life is not based upon conflict but on symbiosis. Natural ecosystems function because each individual species plays a specific and significant role in its upkeep. Predators and prey can never overwhelmingly succeed over the other because of a mutual need to survive, and so when life is in balance, they don’t. Even human beings are covered in tiny microorganisms which call us their home, without whom we would perish pretty much instantly. If life is based on symbiosis, then interdependence would be our natural modus operandi instead of conflict. Human beings today, and throughout history, attempt to reject this natural way of life, and this is why we live in conflict both with the world and ourselves. The basic premise of Taoism teaches similar ideology of not straying into discord by maintaining our natural selves. There are also many examples of pre-civilization humans and aboriginal tribes who lived in harmony with nature and were able to function on egalitarian basis, and it was only with the advent of agriculture, and therefore the accumulation of wealth, that humanity began its downward spiral into jackassery.

I mean, this might make it seem obvious that a communist revolution would ultimately lead to peace and goodwill among men. Get rid of accumulated wealth, and the discord will disappear. However, I don’t think it’s as easy as that. As early as Plato’s Republic have people been aware that material wealth leads to corruption and oppression. Possibly even earlier, I don’t know. That’s just the earliest book I’ve read that mentions it. If we knew of the problem over 2500 years ago and it still seems to be around, perhaps it hints at our natural disposition towards it.

I was once told that capitalism was a relatively recent construction, and therefore its hold over society was not as tenable as our one percenters would try to assure us that it is. It’s true enough; Wealth of Nations only came out in 1776, and deregulated Capitalism 2.0 was only as recent as Reaganomics. But if you recognize capitalism as the relationship between politicians, wealthy business owners, and everyone else, you would realize there have been rulers, aristocrats, and plebeians since the dawn of civilization, and the only differences throughout history have been how those three groups interact.

Capitalism is power over others gained by the acquisition of monetary wealth. In Soviet Russia, power was gained by political clout. In medieval Catholicism it was measured in spirituality. Throughout most of history it has been measured in the quantity of land. Hell, even in high school power over others is based on popularity; the accumulation of social status. We seem to create hierarchies in all aspects of our social culture, at every period in time, which lends credence to the argument that there will always be some form of oppression in our midst. Even if we somehow manage to create an egalitarian, harmonious society, all it would take would be one individual to disrupt and fracture it and the cycle would begin anew. As much social progress as Shah Akbar created as the ruler of India or Caesar Augustus in Rome, it was only a few generations before it all went to shit.

Niccolò Machiavelli points out that the goals of the aristocracy are always to increase their lot in life, and the goals of the people are simply not to be oppressed, to live out their lives unencumbered by the machinations of the elite. It is up to the rulers to decide how that dichotomy will play out, and rulers are not always good ones.

Is human existence as simple as a dualism between two factions to be refereed by an overseeing body? The proletariat and the bourgeoisie is but one example, but there are many. Criminals versus law enforcement. Men versus women. Young versus old. Black versus white.

In Ancient Greece, we coined the word ‘barbarian’ which meant someone who wasn’t Greek. ‘Barbarian’ comes from the strange ‘bar-bar’ language that outsiders would speak. This xenophobic blanket term carries on even today, when we have words like the pejorative Yid to denote someone of Yiddish descent, or Chink to ridicule the speech of the Chinese with their strange ‘bar-bar’ language. Nigger simply means black, making something as trivial as the tint of one’s skin to be one of the most significant aspects of their lives. Even my titular ‘savage’ comes from a slur for the “uncivilized” natives that European explorers found in the new world.

This Us versus Them dualistic conflict is of course overly simplistic. There are always players on the fringes that choose not to be involved, or barter for cooperation, or switch teams, or whatever, but it seems that majority of people in one group with their own culture, mores and beliefs will inherently reject or oppress those in another. These groups could be class, race, religion, gender, sports team, gaming console, favourite Quentin Tarantino movie…

Gay marriage was just legalized in the United States, and yet, the acceptance of Muslims is decreasing at an alarming rate. From my own experience, I saw this:

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about a month ago walking down the street. We can all think that love will conquer all until we realize that that puts us into conflict with those who disagree, and there will always be those who disagree. Even relativism assumes absolutely that relativism is the proper method of thought.

This… this is why I’m cynical. Do we really need a Them to unify us as an Us? Machiavelli tells us that the quickest way to unite warring factions within a city is to attack it. Well, warns us, really; this is told in the context of whether or not it would be a good time to invade. Does that make Ozymandias correct? Is world peace only achievable by some outside, imminently hostile and powerful force? Bertrand Russell in his book The Practice and Theory of Bolshevism points out that a discrepancy in wealth is tolerable so long as everyone has enough. Is that really the best we can hope for if no egalitarian society is possible? Must we be satisfied with “good enough” if the perfect utopia is truly unattainable outside of more conflict?

Charles Eisenstein is a contemporary thinker that is a proponent of the “life as symbiosis” argument that I explained earlier. He argues that we don’t rape and pillage our neighbour not because of the laws in place that tell us we shouldn’t, but because we naturally are against that type of practice. Which again is true, for most people, but there will always be exceptions and it is those exceptions that have to be regulated in order for society to function as best as it can; be it a rapist, a capitalist, or an inquisitor. Life may be symbiotic and interdependent in nature, as the example of a functioning ecosystem clearly shows, but that does not mean that the species within that ecosystem will necessarily exude that characteristic. Typical prey animals without a predator will without fail over-consume to the point of self-caused extinction (you could argue that humans getting rid of the predators would make it our fault, but we didn’t force the deer into overpopulation once all the wolves were gone), and that could just be the perfect metaphor for our human achievement. Maybe the reason early tribes were equitable societies was because they had predators to keep them in line, and now we’re just unhunted squirrels hoarding our nuts because we’re biologically-inclined to think that the winter frost is on its way.

I am not one to endorse biotruths of any kind, so please keep in mind that my last few examples are conjecture at best.

Nietzsche describes human nature as the Will to Power; Freud describes it as the Will to Eros/Thanatos; Sartre, the Will to Freedom; Frankl’s Will to Meaning; and Schopenhauer’s Will. Each thinker in their observations of humanity makes valid points towards the disposition of our being, and in all likelihood a single Will to Anything is probably untrue. Human beings are complex, if nothing else, and an amalgamation of many of their ideas is probably closest to the truth. Even if one drive is stronger in one individual than another, those drives will always exist. Is it possible to overcome them, however? Could we potentially evolve, if not biologically, then socially to the point where regulatory bodies keep our less desirable natures at bay? Is it even a worthwhile goal to stymie ourselves in such a way?

I’m not really sure this post has much of a point outside of venting my cynicism to hopefully subjugate it to my Sisyphean idealism. It’s not really working. We are naught but savages, and I think the best we can do is recognize that aspect of ourselves, and work it into whatever world peace plans we come up with. Anarchy is clearly out.

I am genuinely afraid to write this, and not because I fear reprisals; I will not be harassed, or bullied, or suffer in any way shape or form because of my actions in writing this. In all honesty, I will likely be lauded as a forward-thinking, sterling representation of what a man “should” be. I am a “good” person for writing this. So why the trepidation? Why not stride out boldly into the limelight to accept the accolades for being a man speaking out against the horrific nature of violence towards women?

Because I am a man. I have been conditioned since birth to treat women as a conquest. I maintain a tally of the women I’ve slept with, and I consider it low despite it probably being around average for my age group. I feel shame if I hear of someone who has a higher count than I do. My masculinity, and by extension my very personhood, is defined by the number of women I have had sex with. Is it wrong of me to keep this tally? To think like this? A solid percentage of those women meant a great deal to me at the time, and here I am trivializing them into a statistic; into a notch on my belt. A few of these women I felt more than comfortable telling them I loved them, and this is the respect I have for them now.

I am not impervious to the culture that I live in. I am bombarded, constantly, unceasingly, by media images that tell me to treat women as sexualized objects. I am surrounded by like-minded individuals who are a part of that same culture, and they too espouse similar ideals of male sexual dominance over women. In fact, it was actually a woman who told me that I should lie about the age I lost my virginity in order to appear more masculine. To think that any of us, man or woman, can wholly remove ourselves from a culture that sexualizes women and asserts male dominance is incredibly naïve.

That is why I am afraid. What I have been told a man “should” be is not someone who speaks out against violence; it is probably closer to the opposite. Men are tough as nails, and can handle any shit the world wants to hurl down on us. Beyond that, men are reserved, independent, and hard-working. This is what I’ve been taught, and I would be lying if I said I wasn’t unconsciously affected by this definition, if not consciously.  To say that men need to change is to go against an entire culture, an entire worldly paradigm. To say that men need to change is to go against all that I have been told, all of the experiences that have evolved me into an adult, all of the conditioning that has made me into who I am today.

I still keep a tally of the women I’ve had sex with, and here I am, saying that I am wrong. I have to admit that I am flawed in front of the whole world. I have to overcome my beliefs about who I am in order to write this. It’s kind of freaking me out a little bit. But I do it because men *need* to change. When we think of violence against women, we barely acknowledge men. We’re not even in the name: Violence Against Women. I am sure there exists some amount of women committing violence against women, but the statistics of men being the perpetrators are so high that a generality is forgivable.

It is men who commit violence. Not just against women, but against other men as well. We are the aggressors in nearly every instance of violence in the history of the world. As a man, I am offended by this. It’s disgusting and it reflects poorly on me as a person. Is it selfish to want to go on a first date, and not have the girl sitting on the other side of the table worrying about if I’m going to assault her or not? Absolutely. Imagine the position she’s in! She is afraid because she knows that there is a higher chance of me committing some form of violence against her than her committing some form of violence against me, simply because I am a man.

I honestly can’t think of any argument beyond this. I’m sure if I put some research into this I could come up with statistics to back up what I’ve been saying, but I think most people deep down recognize the truth to it. In movies where violence is the focus, it is almost inevitably being committed by a man. Arnold Schwarzenegger, Bruce Willis, Harrison Ford, Jason Statham, Jackie Chan, Kurt Russell, Bruce Lee, Sylvester Stallone, Robert Downey Junior, and many, many others compared to… Sigourney Weaver in the Alien franchise, Sarah Michelle Gellar in Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Milla Jovovich in the Resident Evil movies and maybe a few token others? Even if turning women into aggressors was somehow the solution to the problem of a culture dominated by male violence, female action stars are still typically sexualized to the point where the message of “women are sex objects” is still being projected as the norm.

As it stands today, men commit violence. Violence is bad. We need to stop violence. Men need to change. I feel like a kindergarten teacher, but maybe putting it in childish terms is the proper means to get the point across.

Of course, everything is always easier said than done. How do we upheave an entire culture that teaches us that women are a sexual conquest? How can we create a revolution that will lead to a society that doesn’t teach boys that violence is a necessary form of control?

That’s another reason that writing this frightens me. I don’t have the answers. I work in a butcher shop. I don’t have a degree saying that I know what I’m talking about. Those who began to read this were probably hoping for some harebrained scheme by the end of it that would offer an easy solution to a multi-layered, global problem. I feel like a liar and a cheat for exposing myself like this without giving away any payoff. It seems almost narcissistic that all I’m writing about is myself and a little bit of a social critique without offering anything more tangible.

But maybe that’s all it takes. Maybe if more men admitted they have a problem with the way they view women; maybe if more men took a step back and critically examined the influences that shaped them; maybe if more men no longer wanted to suffer the embarrassment of being the gender that has committed the worst atrocities against our fellow human beings, then maybe change would come.

The name Elliot Rodger has become synonymous with misogyny and fear. Bringing further to light the hate and aggression that women suffer on a daily basis, Elliot Rodger took violence against women to the extreme. Women live in a world where they refuse to walk home alone after dark. When going on a first date, men are typically afraid of being rejected, and women are typically afraid of being raped. The society we live in perpetuates violence against women, and that is the society wherein we place our daughters and sisters.

However, walking home alone after dark, you are more likely to be attacked if you are a man than if you are a woman. Here is a link to the Indicators of Well-Being in Canada website that shows that the total of all violent offenses against men (including sexual assault, physical assault, and robbery) is higher than against women: http://www4.hrsdc.gc.ca/.3ndic.1t.4r@-eng.jsp?iid=61

Of course, sexual assault is higher against women, surprise surprise, but overall violence is more likely to occur if you have a penis than if you don’t.

So why are women terrified when they are actually safer than men? Well, that society we live in also perpetuates fear. The term “rape culture” gets thrown around in feminist dialogues every now and then, and what that means is that the predominant culture is one that seemingly allows, or even endorses, rape through its imagery and popular dialogue. For example, that US senator who spoke about “legitimate rape”, or images in the media of sexual abuse against women, all these things combined create a culture where violence against women is seen as the norm. A culture like that is bound to make anyone just a tiny bit afraid of going out alone after dark.

The overwhelming response against the massacre that Elliot Rodger’s committed plays into that fear. Women are coming forward on twitter with the hashtag #YesAllWomen to tell stories of the abuses that they’ve suffered. I’m not saying that these women are lying, nor am I saying that what happens to women on a daily basis is horrible. What I’m saying is that the celebration of victimhood and the perpetuation of fear is the wrong approach to actually solving these problems.

So I bet you thought I was going to get all “Men’s Rights”, and “We need to focus on The Mens!”  when I mentioned that men are attacked more often than women. And I am, kind of. In keeping with the anecdotal tradition of #YesAllWomen, I asked all the guys I work with if they had ever been in a fight. I was met with shock; not that it was an offensive question, but because the answer was so obvious that I shouldn’t even have needed to ask. Yes. They had all been in fights. One guy answered, “Yeah, a couple” and another alluded to having been in many. Violence among men is SO STANDARD that asking about it is meaningless.

So in regard to our boy Elliot, let’s focus on The Mens. Instead of asking, “Why are women being assaulted?” let’s ask, “Why are men assaulting women?” Let’s include men, even just the term, in the dialogue when it comes to violence against women.

Let’s look at Elliot Rodger without mentioning anything feminine. He is a man, he is socially isolated, feels humiliated, and has access to guns. Doesn’t that look just a teeny bit similar to every instance of a school shooting? Of, you know, most mass killings?

There is a common thread between violence against men and the violence against women, and that is that it is violence being committed by men. This is the issue that needs dealing with. Not making women terrified so that first dates are even harder for us guys than necessary, but getting to the root of why men are committing violence.

The first question that I asked about why women are being assaulted. The #YesAllWomen trend. Most media dialogue regarding violence against women. They all ignore men. It seems as though women are the issue here, and the old gun logic of “If everyone had a penis, then none of this would have happened!” becomes the somewhat facetious solution to these problems.

Or you could look at what actually caused this violence in the first place. Maybe let’s curb access to guns, develop a more socially inclusive society, have easier access to mental health therapy, or maybe adjust our culture to one that doesn’t glorify violence in masculinity.